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What Should You Be?
Question: What is the best personality or the best identity for you to assume?
Answer: Anything you want to be! A cheerful friend, a businesslike executive, a caring listener. Whatever is best at the time.
Different circumstances require different attitudes. For example, to be a bossy manager at work might be appropriate, but you might drive your spouse crazy if the identity continues at home.
To be a rowdy sports fan at a game is great, but not what you should be when asking for a raise.
The reason people have trouble determining who or what they should BE is because they don't start with HAVE.
Children are commonly asked `What are you going to BE when you grow up?' It is a silly question and can drive any child up the wall. Wrong question—hits the wrong end of the cycle.
He is also asked, `What are you going to DO in life?' That's just as bad. It is quite difficult to answer.
If we asked children, `What do you want to PRODUCE in life?' we could probably get a workable answer. From that he could figure out what he'd have to do to produce that and from that he could know what he had to BE. Then, with a little cooperation he would be able to lead a happy and valuable life.